Dating….A primal practice (Switchblade)

Since most of my esteemed co-bloggers have written volumes on contemporary dating dos and don’ts…I decided to take a different look at the dating scene altogether and postulate the dating habits of Neanderthal man. Not much is known of our supposed ancestors let alone what they did on the special night…hence all the data and ‘facts’ published here are quite open to discussion.




Being a Neanderthal on a date brings in a lot more complexities than one would imagine…

First question that arose was what to wear on that special first date? For them its wasn’t as simple as popping into the nearest mall and picking up a suave ensemble…our ancestors would have to hunt down their evening wear. Luckily they weren’t too spoiled for choices…it was either bear, wolf, or dog. The upper strata of prehistoric society could even indulge in the luxury of saber-tooth and wooly mammoth skins. For underwear, wild cats were usually hunted because of their soft hide that gave just the right amount of comfort and support…. and lets face it…even Neanderthals knew better than to be caught wearing dirty underwear on that special night.

Being presentable to the ladies was also a major concern among prehistoric men. Some learnt the hard way that Eau d’ Skunk wasn’t exactly the best perfume to wear. Most men would rub flowers on themselves to get rid of offensive odors (Showing up on a date with flowers for in your hand finds its origins in this practice).

Asking a girl out wasn’t too hard for them though…it was only a matter of spotting the girl you like and knocking her out with a blunt object. The girl was then dragged to the man’s cave. The few hours of unconsciousness that followed gave the man just enough time to set up the candle-lit dinner table.

Dinner preparations were also quite simple with the more resourceful men using the meat from their recently killed clothes as the main course.

The conversations around the dinner table were sadly quite limited, as the concept of a language itself wasn’t very well developed. Through grunts, groans and gestures the man would try to wow the lady with tales of his hunting exploits.
If the lady was impressed enough then the man would get 'lucky' and would have himself a girlfriend. Subsequent dates would not involve as much preparation or the use of blunt objects.

If however the man were to fail, it would mean a few more days before he’d have another passed out dame in his cave with a big leg of boar roasting over an open flame.

Its only through these primitive practices that us contemporary men have come to perfect the art of dating over the years. Herein ends this brief peek into the dating lives of our Neanderthal ancestors.

disastrous dates (Neha / messy)

i am wondering if im too late for this post... i should be ashamed of being so late (but id blame it on my conked off pc)... especially from someone whos older than most of you... and so u would guess more experienced... but naah... that would be wrong... dating was a big no no for me when i was in college... well even after that... so not much experience there... sigh!

that brings us down to some snippets about a few dates i know of... again i won't get into the nitty gritties about the fundas of dating... we got some super cool ones from the others... so what i would like to blabber here are the dates gone wrong... yeah the disastrous ones... (utsys just given her version)... i give some i know of...

mehal... one of the hot chick at this place i used to work... all the guys loved her... but she loved someone else... they were planning to marry by the end of the year... but that didnt hamper her from flirting with the others... and one day she decided to date one of our managers (prashant)... we had to attend a conference and after that they were supposed to meet up... unfortunately her boyfriend turned up to surprise (!!!) her... wham... off went the date... but prashant was still waiting for her (most people didnt own cell phones then)... mehal being mehal thought of a plan... i was forced to go with her (and of course her boyfriend accompanied us) to where prashant was waiting for her.. duhhh uhh.. double date... and that too with prashant... errr not my kinds... but i had to grin n bear... i would have rather gone dating secretively with a nice hot guy!!... things are better left forgotten!

the other date is worse... i had this friend who met up with this girl for the first time... now this friend of mine is a sweet guy with loads of big bucks... so he took her to a fancy restaurant... he ordered for champagne and all the nice romantic things you do on a first date... the date was going fine for a while... but then sometimes things have to go wrong!.. destiny i would say... end of the evening and time to leave...

the girl says, "hey dont u think this is a sheer waste of good food?"

my friend, "what are you talking about?"

the girl, "errr... why dont we just pack up the leftover food and give it away to the dogs."

whoaaaa... first date and ur thinking of dogs... my friend was so put off by this... he never asked her out again!.. id say a date gone to the dogs!!! (winks)


but then guys... a date gone wrong isnt always bad... i'd like to quote deip (aka wordsmith) on his take on first dates...

if the first date is perfect; the relationship will most probably be a disaster

(errr deip... what about the first date being imperfect?? any quote on that?)


so guys be positive and date on... someday somewhere ud meet the right him (or her) ... till then its 'date' time folks...

laterzzz all

ps : hey ishi... thanx for the dedication... thats a wonderful song... love it... :)... ohhh this is so wonderful... im out of words!

dating vating (*uttara*)

After soo many posts about dating fundas lemme come up with a live experience of one of my DATES!! * winks*

Me n this guy decided to meet sometime (1st time).. i usually work 6days so end of the week am literally DEAD! so we decide on time n place, it was a Saturday Mocha Bandra 5:00pm ( Saturday its a so called half day! )

Lemme introduce him .. He is a script writer for movies and quite a good poet n musician as well... He has written a hindi movie and couple of serials in bengali not an old guy though! just a beginner... he was a Journalist before this..

now getting back to the date.. :p

He was a minute before i could reach.. waiting at the entrance.. when he 1st saw me i could see his eyes scanning me top to bottom (looses his brownie points) I showed as if i dint realise it...then he compliments me (doesn't gain brownie point :p) i smile at him :) say "Thanx"then we proceed into Mocha, trying find a place to rest our behinds, fine we got it.. i couldn't believe we wud get one easily as it was a Saturday eve! Later we order something to drink i order my Fav Tobelorone shake ! he ordered plain cold coffee.. We hit onto a conversation about his work, his experience with Sanjay Dutt, Arshad Warsi, n woman woman woman...( i gotto know wat his mind set is like) he was looking for a new comer actress for his new scheduled movie i asked if i could help him in finding one there ! lol

later was my work a bit of my likes and dislikes ( i din't talk much ) wat he does in spare time etc etc.. it went on quite well ( conversation !! :p) .. After sometime he goes on n on n on praising me how HOT I'm, how sexy, curvy body... blah blah blah ( * the brownie points goes to negative tick tick tick tick .... *) my interest level is going down..

another thing wat he said was," i will write a movie forecasting u, but the movie will be based on Lesbian " i was like GRRRRRRRRR in my head but face smiling and told him "Don't U ever think of that buddy "

Don't laugh u guys !!

Also had the audacity to ask me about my S** life i said it is rocking y? then he was on n on about his... lol ( am like thinking he is one DESPO on earth )

guys i was really angry by now...lolz

anyway.. he came out of his tight schedule so i reminded him about his tight schedule while he already went into his dreamland and dreamstreet within no time( don't ask me wat he was doing there ).. after showing my bitchiness.. we bid bye bye.. he pecked on my cheeks! ( nah i dint ) He was like lets meet up again i simply smiled and left ...

later he messaged me telling me to come out of my Parvati Avtar.. i said I'm like this only !!

OMG!!!

U guys would have made out how you should behave with a woman on a first date .. right?? lolz

now here are some Do's n don'ts i won't keep this long Most of them have given few already these would be add on's...

fundas for girls:

1)Be yourself, don't empty ur makeup kit...
2)Feel fresh and don't look like u have done some hamaali job ( labours) Even if u are tired cover it up :)
3)Shampoo your hair well and leave your hair open if u feel u can manage it well ;)
4) Please try and compliment guys and don't wait for them to do it first ( no books says that guys should do it first ) but don't overdo it ;)
5) Look into their eyes n talk.. ;)
6) Be polite and not loud !
7) Don't yap much give guys a chance to talk ( look who is saying this ..lol)
8) Don't crib & don't be fussy ( it can be on anything place, food, ambiance.. etc etc )
9) Don't talk about yourself all the time and pls don't talk about your ex's ..lol
10) Don't throw major attitudes and don't act pricey..lol
11) Please wear something nice and pretty outfit ( in which u are comfortable) .. and not the one u wanna literally seduce the guy and leave him high n dry types !..lol
12) Have some good sensible conversations, don't start bitching about the whole world!
13) Be a little coy and don't behave like a tom boy!

Guys

Guys please don't scan with an xray eyes wen u meet her .. lols or dont come up with DDLJ dialogues.. n with all the sweetness in world like... sweety pie, dahling, hun, all sugary sugary words..... bhai diabetes ho jayegi ladkiyon ko ! show some attitude man!

I think my list of Do's n Dont's will go on and on


The end!
Finale

PS: sorry for a long post !

It goes beyond the Lines (Jewel Rays)

Dating. An interesting, fun and beautiful process of getting to know someone and allowing ya love detector to test if there is any potenital in this lady/guy.A time when we get to know each other's interests, dislikes, personality and outlook in life. I guess first impressions counts. But i think dating which often leads to a relationship if the detector deems it right goes beyond the first few good looking shirts he wore and his irresistably well styled hair in the few dates that passed us by. Not to say that looks, hygeine and a good impression does not count at all. I believe they do and are infact also big contributors when u finally made up ya mind. I mean after all you don't want to be attracted & be with someone without good hygeine once you make up ya mind. Sex appeal does matter much..haha..:P

I guess apperance has a limit that does not depict as much. But what that person carries within his thoughts, attitude and heart goes a longer way than his outside.As for me, one of the irresistable things in a man would be his charisma, his ability to communicate on various topics ,humourous,listener, down to earth nature and yet a strong mind in what he believe in are the magnets somehow. (There are more to include but i will just note those above for now. And it would be nice to know abt u as well.:) I think through this it would give us a chance to discover if a person is on the same wavelength as us and if he could possibly be a strength to us if dating takes off big time.However, its always good to keep ya options open until the time is more ripe and settled inside.U don't want to get all caught up in cloud 9 and make a decision towards wat u are feeling at that moment at that time. I guess getting to know someone is not in a day or two but it takes quite a while.Its a really great time of discovering that special someone.:) And when u feel its right, the feeling is wow. The first few dates are always on the lines to impress one another on our good ethics, appearances and personality much that is if we have a good one. But when the stars start to draw their lights, the moon fades its moonlight and when ya feet starts to feel the hard cold ground. Its the within that goes a longer way that what was displayed outside. Character plays a big part and so does the little things that draws you to him much. :)

Dating, a moment to be grasps much. Its a real beautiful time of our lives. The good and the bad ones.Something to laugh with our friends abt or go doe eyed at times. Just one caution, do not get too caught up too fast.And when the dating process forms a stronger bond with both hearts just note the statement below if things blossom to white bells that ring out loud.

"Make sure you guys see eyes to eye on what makes a partnership that would last and compliment both lives and hearts."

And here to accompany my post the song.

"That don't impress me much - by Shania Twain"

Have a good weekend all.:)

50 First Dates (Keshi)

The title of this post is a name of a movie. Why I chose that is cos each new date (whether it's with the same person or not) should be fresh and feel like your very first date...don't you think so guys and gals? Ok now I have been on few dates myself and to be honest I had so much fun whether the relationship blossomed or not later on. My idea of a first date is to HAVE FUN. Alot of guys and gals go on a date picturing a wedding some day, a white picket fence, babies, changing nappies, growing old together and retiring with that person. Well it's great if you find a partner like that but lets just not have too much hopes in the first date itself. As men and women, we need each others' company and it's great to just enjoy the few moments without bearing too much hope and expectations. Well that's my idea of a first date anyways. If things go well, then let's get on the second date. If not, well it's great we met and had some fun!

Some thoughts to ponder upon:

1. Girls just dress to the occasion and place. If your date is a dinner date at a fancy restaurant, then dress elegantly (not over the top though). If you're date is a movie date, then casuals. If it's a bike-riding date, then shorts and sneakers ofcourse. Do not over/under-dress. It's very important, unless ofcourse the guy is a loner with a mortifying dress sense!

2. How do you choose where/what to do on your first date? Well if you were given the honors, then select a low-key activity as the first date. Even a simple walk or a coffee date would do for starters. Don't go to an expensive and heavy Opera night on your first date itself unless ofcourse you want to bore the dude to death.

3. Who spends on what? Well I guess alot of us keep thinking about that. It aint the money but there's something call dating etiquette. So I'd say, if the date involves expenses, then share the costs. Go fifity-fifty. Don't sit there and expect the guy to pay for you (those days are gone). Show that you're aware of that thing called 'sharing' and being 'independent'. it aint only about that, it's also about being fair.

4. Do I kiss him or do I wait for him to kiss me? First of all, did you have a shower and brush before you left home? If the answer is YES, ah ah you aint allowed to kiss him yet. Cos do we even know if he showered and brushed before he left? LOL you can't ask him that, but when you look at him and talk to him, I'm sure you can tell. I'm an old-fashioned girl. I like to take it slow. So unless I'm in some lusty period of the month and wanna grope him like a tigress, I'd wait for a few more dates to be kissed. But that's just me :). By all means go for it if you think it's right for you. But whatever you do, please don't sleep on your first date, eeeeks!

I'd have to stop it here before I end up writing an epic on Dates. So guys and gals, the idea is just have fun, enjoy each others' company and take it slow. Guys, you don't have to pretend to be a manly MAN and girls you don't have to pretend to be a womanly WOMAN. Just be yourselves. There's nothing more attractive than being the individual that you are. See yous laterz!

Ishq Vishq Pyaar Vyaar ;-) (Ishita)

A lot of gyaan has been shared on dating fundas….Can I add more? Nope coz everyone’s covered most of the points anyway! But okk lets go ahead and make this post a little different :). I’m going to talk about dating but NOT first dates….

But before I do that I have to say I think the most vital point made in most posts is being “comfortable” with yourself and with your date. It’s obvious we’re on a date with X Y Z coz he/she is interesting to us and we want to get to know them better. And he/she agreed to be with us coz well the same thought was running in his/her head….so why try and be something we’re not?

Back to the kind of dates I’d be happiest in … not first dates but with someone I may have been with for sometime…

Of course presuming the guy is my dream guy ;-) … yeah he could be as real as my hubby or as unreal as the dreamiest guy ever born! Mera choice hai bhai…

I’d luv a date which would last through the day and ummm…yeah the night. And if alls going perect...I'd want it forever! Doing all the mundane things like making……good conversation (get that look off your face heh!), having nice meals…one definitely a home cooked one (I guess that would ideally be dinner *ahem*)…music is an integral part of a home date…so that’s gotta play in the background….soft and soothing :)

Well, cooking together can be crazily romantic and more so if both share the same passion for food as much as they do for each other! So pick out some recipes to try out…

Watching a good movie (a common choice) together is a fun thing to do too…arguing over which one to watch can be fun too esp. when u get to make up soon after…

Ever tried reading a book together? :) It’s the most relaxing thing to do and one can that sometimes lead u to some of your most satisfying conversations…debating the merits or demerits of books and movies is a nice way to even check out how alike you are or not! :P

Hmmmm…or you could try dancing together :)

Did I mention you should try and turn off your cell phone?!? Or keep it on silent? :) Now that’s a big turn off @ receiving a call in the middle of a nice dinner, movie, conversation and err… everything else u might be indulging in :)

I guess the point I am trying to make here is the kind of time you spend with your date. By that I essentially mean quality time. One can stay busy at work through the week….work can overwhelm us but when you do get that time with your special one, make it truly memorable. One can shut out work for a while…I am sure :)

If time permits, get away for couple of days. There’s nothing more romantic than being with someone in an unfamiliar but beautiful place…two’s always company with a couple who’ve been dating for a while and three’s always a crowd! The “meet in an open place” works well in first dates but is a total NO in the kind of date I’m talking about :) …we certainly don’t want any company!

I prefer the quiet kind of getaways…where I can do most of the things I mentioned above. Ok maybe not cook but order room service instead :P … but for some people, getaways could involve a lot of outdoor activities too….adventure sports, trekking/biking together…anything works so long as it leaves you with memories to cherish!

The whole point is doing things together. And sometimes just being together and not doing anything at all…have u ever shared each other’s silence? Where you know you’re just happy being there and ditto for him/her… it's bliss :-)…

I guess when u follow all the dating advice given for the first dates…in the previous posts and you do end up with that special someone, my points would work for u guys/girls too :-) ...If you were to ask me how to define a perfect date? I'd say it's perfect when at the end of it, I wanna be with the person again...and again....and again ;-)

That’s it for now…long post I know! :P… But I’m off for the 3 day weekend so I won’t be getting here till Monday! Enjoy your holidays ppl :-)

Dating Fundas (Pavan)

First of all guys, I just wanna say Im sorry for not being around since the inception of our little group. I was involved in a car accident with a drunk driver and it took time to get over all the injuries and all the other things which came along with it. but I am back now.

To start it off, the topic of dating fundas came one year late for me i guess because I met my fiance just a year ago, I could have used this a couple of years back. I like the suggestions that many of you have given. However now let me give some of my own.

I am in total agreement that one either guy or girl should be confident of who they are when they are out on a date. I feel its ok to be diverse in who we might choose to date, but ultimately if you cant see yourself with that person, then dont waste your time and theirs by going out on a date. If you are in the setting, its understood that you have some amount of attraction to them, and they to you. A mistake I have made in the past is I have tried to become the person that I think the girl would like and that isnt beneficial to either of you. It might sound like a cliche but just be yourself. The goal of any date, but especially the first date is to impress, but not to show off. Too much bragging about anything can quickly become a turn off.

As far as dressing up goes, I think one should be dressed decently but try not overdoing it, just enough cologne or perfume where it can be sensed, but to the point where the other is thinking about. Another main point is avoid coming on too strong. Guage the way the other person is feeling by looking for body language and mannerisms, being respectful will score you a lot of points whether the date becomes a relationship or not.

In choosing a place to go, I think a neutral setting works best. A nice and public place wont intimidate the other. If things go well it is not difficult to retreat to a more private setting. These are just some of the things I have come across in my life, and reflective of my opinion only. Hope some of them help.

This is Poo :)) (Puja)

Thanks Ishi for inviting me and letting me be a part of this group.

Intro (will keep this a short one) - you guys can call me poji or poo.

I am very cute, I laugh when something or somebody is talking very seriously (Sorry). I am very lazy at times. I can never forgive someone very easily. I am hopelessly romantic. I dream a lot. Sometimes Black and white. I am very sensitive, I cry at the littlest things; touching movies, sad endings. Can't hurt any body (but still it hap’s unknowingly). I am very emotional, but still very strong. I am very homely person. I am okish at cooking. But love it when someone soecial cooks for me. I love to watch movie. I love pink color... I am so bad at singing!!! You guys will runaway if you here it !!!! and am a foodie :)I am working and staying with my family, Single and I love my nephew and niece. I can’t remember bthdays and anniversary …I am so bulakad !!! .

Dating fundoos.

Dating tips for Girls.
1. Always smell good even if it’s just shampoo! You don't want to spoil it all just by smelling bad?? And plsss at the same time don't overdo it...otherwise you will end up smelling like a perfume factory!

2. Don't be a grouch. A friendly behavior is always a sign of openness and pleasant nature. That will warm them even when it's minus 20 outside! Smile a lot!! It helps reduce all the nervousness of the first date. just a warm straight-from-the-heart smile will do wonders!

3. Take some time to dress up. Well...how you do it depends on how your partner likes you to be but most of all how you like yourself to be. You should be comfortable in what you are wearing.

4. Be yourself ...don't look like a cake with messed up icing and spoil it all! Don't fish for compliments! (Though honestly you would love to hear how great you look!) Let it come out easily. You will know you've had him when he tells you, "You look gorgeous" even on a bad-hair day!

5. Say their names every time you speak to them. It does make a person feel important....I don’t know I feel this :)

Dating tips for Guys.
1. Wear the right kind of after-shave lotion or perfume. But remember, not too much, not too less!

2. Though you would like her to think of you as a tough and rough , so she feels protected in your presence. This particular attitude puts off a lot of girls. Most of the times guys are so consumed with acting macho that makes girls think you are not sensitive enough! So, take it easy! and be nice and little sensitive. ...(most of the guys are so unsensitive)

3. Please guys dress-up well on at least ur first date. Most of the men don't think they have to pay attention to the way they dress. Its not that you need to apply makeup or something, just that be neat haircut, remember to shave, be presentable. C'mon ...all you guys want your partners to look their best so why not look presentable yourself. She wouldn't like going out with a shabbily dressed date herself, right?

4. Remember to complement your date. But it should be genuine! It could be her hair, her smile, her outfit, her lipstick, her sense of humor... or just about anything! After all she's YOUR date! There's definitely something about this girl or you wouldn't be dating her in the first place, right?

5. Take to her a very nice place, its ur first date right !!! so a very nice and cozy Coffee shop or something nice...whr the crowd is very very less.

Keep smiling always :))