50 First Dates (Keshi)

The title of this post is a name of a movie. Why I chose that is cos each new date (whether it's with the same person or not) should be fresh and feel like your very first date...don't you think so guys and gals? Ok now I have been on few dates myself and to be honest I had so much fun whether the relationship blossomed or not later on. My idea of a first date is to HAVE FUN. Alot of guys and gals go on a date picturing a wedding some day, a white picket fence, babies, changing nappies, growing old together and retiring with that person. Well it's great if you find a partner like that but lets just not have too much hopes in the first date itself. As men and women, we need each others' company and it's great to just enjoy the few moments without bearing too much hope and expectations. Well that's my idea of a first date anyways. If things go well, then let's get on the second date. If not, well it's great we met and had some fun!

Some thoughts to ponder upon:

1. Girls just dress to the occasion and place. If your date is a dinner date at a fancy restaurant, then dress elegantly (not over the top though). If you're date is a movie date, then casuals. If it's a bike-riding date, then shorts and sneakers ofcourse. Do not over/under-dress. It's very important, unless ofcourse the guy is a loner with a mortifying dress sense!

2. How do you choose where/what to do on your first date? Well if you were given the honors, then select a low-key activity as the first date. Even a simple walk or a coffee date would do for starters. Don't go to an expensive and heavy Opera night on your first date itself unless ofcourse you want to bore the dude to death.

3. Who spends on what? Well I guess alot of us keep thinking about that. It aint the money but there's something call dating etiquette. So I'd say, if the date involves expenses, then share the costs. Go fifity-fifty. Don't sit there and expect the guy to pay for you (those days are gone). Show that you're aware of that thing called 'sharing' and being 'independent'. it aint only about that, it's also about being fair.

4. Do I kiss him or do I wait for him to kiss me? First of all, did you have a shower and brush before you left home? If the answer is YES, ah ah you aint allowed to kiss him yet. Cos do we even know if he showered and brushed before he left? LOL you can't ask him that, but when you look at him and talk to him, I'm sure you can tell. I'm an old-fashioned girl. I like to take it slow. So unless I'm in some lusty period of the month and wanna grope him like a tigress, I'd wait for a few more dates to be kissed. But that's just me :). By all means go for it if you think it's right for you. But whatever you do, please don't sleep on your first date, eeeeks!

I'd have to stop it here before I end up writing an epic on Dates. So guys and gals, the idea is just have fun, enjoy each others' company and take it slow. Guys, you don't have to pretend to be a manly MAN and girls you don't have to pretend to be a womanly WOMAN. Just be yourselves. There's nothing more attractive than being the individual that you are. See yous laterz!

Ishq Vishq Pyaar Vyaar ;-) (Ishita)

A lot of gyaan has been shared on dating fundas….Can I add more? Nope coz everyone’s covered most of the points anyway! But okk lets go ahead and make this post a little different :). I’m going to talk about dating but NOT first dates….

But before I do that I have to say I think the most vital point made in most posts is being “comfortable” with yourself and with your date. It’s obvious we’re on a date with X Y Z coz he/she is interesting to us and we want to get to know them better. And he/she agreed to be with us coz well the same thought was running in his/her head….so why try and be something we’re not?

Back to the kind of dates I’d be happiest in … not first dates but with someone I may have been with for sometime…

Of course presuming the guy is my dream guy ;-) … yeah he could be as real as my hubby or as unreal as the dreamiest guy ever born! Mera choice hai bhai…

I’d luv a date which would last through the day and ummm…yeah the night. And if alls going perect...I'd want it forever! Doing all the mundane things like making……good conversation (get that look off your face heh!), having nice meals…one definitely a home cooked one (I guess that would ideally be dinner *ahem*)…music is an integral part of a home date…so that’s gotta play in the background….soft and soothing :)

Well, cooking together can be crazily romantic and more so if both share the same passion for food as much as they do for each other! So pick out some recipes to try out…

Watching a good movie (a common choice) together is a fun thing to do too…arguing over which one to watch can be fun too esp. when u get to make up soon after…

Ever tried reading a book together? :) It’s the most relaxing thing to do and one can that sometimes lead u to some of your most satisfying conversations…debating the merits or demerits of books and movies is a nice way to even check out how alike you are or not! :P

Hmmmm…or you could try dancing together :)

Did I mention you should try and turn off your cell phone?!? Or keep it on silent? :) Now that’s a big turn off @ receiving a call in the middle of a nice dinner, movie, conversation and err… everything else u might be indulging in :)

I guess the point I am trying to make here is the kind of time you spend with your date. By that I essentially mean quality time. One can stay busy at work through the week….work can overwhelm us but when you do get that time with your special one, make it truly memorable. One can shut out work for a while…I am sure :)

If time permits, get away for couple of days. There’s nothing more romantic than being with someone in an unfamiliar but beautiful place…two’s always company with a couple who’ve been dating for a while and three’s always a crowd! The “meet in an open place” works well in first dates but is a total NO in the kind of date I’m talking about :) …we certainly don’t want any company!

I prefer the quiet kind of getaways…where I can do most of the things I mentioned above. Ok maybe not cook but order room service instead :P … but for some people, getaways could involve a lot of outdoor activities too….adventure sports, trekking/biking together…anything works so long as it leaves you with memories to cherish!

The whole point is doing things together. And sometimes just being together and not doing anything at all…have u ever shared each other’s silence? Where you know you’re just happy being there and ditto for him/her… it's bliss :-)…

I guess when u follow all the dating advice given for the first dates…in the previous posts and you do end up with that special someone, my points would work for u guys/girls too :-) ...If you were to ask me how to define a perfect date? I'd say it's perfect when at the end of it, I wanna be with the person again...and again....and again ;-)

That’s it for now…long post I know! :P… But I’m off for the 3 day weekend so I won’t be getting here till Monday! Enjoy your holidays ppl :-)

Dating Fundas (Pavan)

First of all guys, I just wanna say Im sorry for not being around since the inception of our little group. I was involved in a car accident with a drunk driver and it took time to get over all the injuries and all the other things which came along with it. but I am back now.

To start it off, the topic of dating fundas came one year late for me i guess because I met my fiance just a year ago, I could have used this a couple of years back. I like the suggestions that many of you have given. However now let me give some of my own.

I am in total agreement that one either guy or girl should be confident of who they are when they are out on a date. I feel its ok to be diverse in who we might choose to date, but ultimately if you cant see yourself with that person, then dont waste your time and theirs by going out on a date. If you are in the setting, its understood that you have some amount of attraction to them, and they to you. A mistake I have made in the past is I have tried to become the person that I think the girl would like and that isnt beneficial to either of you. It might sound like a cliche but just be yourself. The goal of any date, but especially the first date is to impress, but not to show off. Too much bragging about anything can quickly become a turn off.

As far as dressing up goes, I think one should be dressed decently but try not overdoing it, just enough cologne or perfume where it can be sensed, but to the point where the other is thinking about. Another main point is avoid coming on too strong. Guage the way the other person is feeling by looking for body language and mannerisms, being respectful will score you a lot of points whether the date becomes a relationship or not.

In choosing a place to go, I think a neutral setting works best. A nice and public place wont intimidate the other. If things go well it is not difficult to retreat to a more private setting. These are just some of the things I have come across in my life, and reflective of my opinion only. Hope some of them help.

This is Poo :)) (Puja)

Thanks Ishi for inviting me and letting me be a part of this group.

Intro (will keep this a short one) - you guys can call me poji or poo.

I am very cute, I laugh when something or somebody is talking very seriously (Sorry). I am very lazy at times. I can never forgive someone very easily. I am hopelessly romantic. I dream a lot. Sometimes Black and white. I am very sensitive, I cry at the littlest things; touching movies, sad endings. Can't hurt any body (but still it hap’s unknowingly). I am very emotional, but still very strong. I am very homely person. I am okish at cooking. But love it when someone soecial cooks for me. I love to watch movie. I love pink color... I am so bad at singing!!! You guys will runaway if you here it !!!! and am a foodie :)I am working and staying with my family, Single and I love my nephew and niece. I can’t remember bthdays and anniversary …I am so bulakad !!! .

Dating fundoos.

Dating tips for Girls.
1. Always smell good even if it’s just shampoo! You don't want to spoil it all just by smelling bad?? And plsss at the same time don't overdo it...otherwise you will end up smelling like a perfume factory!

2. Don't be a grouch. A friendly behavior is always a sign of openness and pleasant nature. That will warm them even when it's minus 20 outside! Smile a lot!! It helps reduce all the nervousness of the first date. just a warm straight-from-the-heart smile will do wonders!

3. Take some time to dress up. Well...how you do it depends on how your partner likes you to be but most of all how you like yourself to be. You should be comfortable in what you are wearing.

4. Be yourself ...don't look like a cake with messed up icing and spoil it all! Don't fish for compliments! (Though honestly you would love to hear how great you look!) Let it come out easily. You will know you've had him when he tells you, "You look gorgeous" even on a bad-hair day!

5. Say their names every time you speak to them. It does make a person feel important....I don’t know I feel this :)

Dating tips for Guys.
1. Wear the right kind of after-shave lotion or perfume. But remember, not too much, not too less!

2. Though you would like her to think of you as a tough and rough , so she feels protected in your presence. This particular attitude puts off a lot of girls. Most of the times guys are so consumed with acting macho that makes girls think you are not sensitive enough! So, take it easy! and be nice and little sensitive. ...(most of the guys are so unsensitive)

3. Please guys dress-up well on at least ur first date. Most of the men don't think they have to pay attention to the way they dress. Its not that you need to apply makeup or something, just that be neat haircut, remember to shave, be presentable. C'mon ...all you guys want your partners to look their best so why not look presentable yourself. She wouldn't like going out with a shabbily dressed date herself, right?

4. Remember to complement your date. But it should be genuine! It could be her hair, her smile, her outfit, her lipstick, her sense of humor... or just about anything! After all she's YOUR date! There's definitely something about this girl or you wouldn't be dating her in the first place, right?

5. Take to her a very nice place, its ur first date right !!! so a very nice and cozy Coffee shop or something nice...whr the crowd is very very less.

Keep smiling always :))

messy is here!!! (Neha)

yeah right... im here (thanx to ishi)... n here to stay... new horizons to achieve... new friends to make... new people to blabber with... new hearts to break (winks).... so here i am...

this is me... totally faltu... i don't work... i don't earn my bread and butter... i blow up money... i shop... i blog... i chat... i eat... i drink (sometimes)... i smile... i laugh... i sing... i dance... and the best part... i love to hassle my husband... (he's given up on me after almost 6 yrs of marriage... lol)

whew!!!

and then if u ask me, "hey neha whats up?"
my standard answer would be, "oh crap! im so busy! no time!"

so what do i do all day??

hmmmm
hmmmm
hmmmm
nothing much!

i cook... i look after my home... i blog... i teach (it's more of a hobby than a profession)... and just throw my attitude on anyone and everyone... (hubby darling inclusive)

so thats not really much that i do... but yeah i still don't have time... sigh!

now for those who don't know much about me...

name : neha
age : 31
education : commerce graduate
city : mumbai
people call me : messy (short for my nik mesmerising-eyes)
'between us friends' blogger i have met personally : arz000n, mala, uttara, puneet
those i want to meet : keshi (im coming to sydney someday girl!) and ishi (missed meeting her the last time she was here!)

my latest funda in life : no one's a virgin in this world... coz life f**ks us all! (very inspirational... makes me smile and go on with the crap life throws at me!)

ps: this pic was taken when fairy was in town... at mochas... the reason why i have put this picture up is coz of arz000n... he hasn't clicked my pic... he was focusing on me with the intention of clicking the pic of the guy behind me... reason??... oh naah don't u get the wrong idea!!... the only reason was that he thought the guy was a terrorist or a kidnapper coz he was staring at all of us for half an hour without blinking!... good job arz000n... so if any of us is ever kidnapped u guys know who to look for!!

laterzzzz all!!

Fortnightly Update (Ishita)

Okkk guys … time for the fortnightly update again. I thought I wouldn’t be around to put in the update this time coz my pc crashed :( (Blogged about it here). Anyway, using my cousin’s laptop to get here and put this up! I also lost a lot of files…including the one with birthdays/annivs *sigh*…so please guys take the trouble to send me all that again!! All communication related to this blog should be sent to our new email id betweenusfriends@gmail.com

Firstly thanks again for putting up your posts…Amy, Mala, Uttsy, Rajbir, Suchi, Rajiv, Keshi, Kathy, Yashita and John! Ofcourse, I put up mine too! This Friday (tomorrow) is the last day for this topic @ ‘Blog Review/Recommendation”, so if anyone of the others left…has a post to put up please do so asap!

I hope u guys remember the rules..esp. the one which says u can’t go missing for more than 3 weeks at a stretch! That obviously means you can’t skip two topics in row!! So all u guys who missed this topic, you all better put in posts in the topic that’s coming up effective this weekend! :P this message is specially for Pavan, Sudeep, Puneet and Arz000n!

Not many got back to me with new topic suggestions. So you just have to choose from the ones we put up each time in the poll counter. This time out of the four topics which have featured….@ “Travel Experiences”, “Your weird hobby”, “Share a recipe” and “Dating Fundas”…we got max. votes for “Dating Fundas” soooo….get going and share your dating funda’s ppl :-) … that would include stuff like what you think would work to make a perfect date or talk about your dating experiences, share music u used to woo your love, messed up dates, things that are a definite no no…and yeah your idea of a perfect date! And who you’d like as your date etc etc….!

Oh yeah keep in mind that music in the post shouldn’t auto play or loop!! :)

All those ready with your posts for “Dating Fundas”, please start posting this Saturday onwards! It would help if not more than one post is put up in a day….so if u see one already in, then try and wait till the next day….unless of course u won’t be able to get back for a while and just HAVE to put it up that very moment itself! :)

And start voting for the next set of topics…@ “My kind of music”, “Your weird hobby” (this almost won the last time, hence here again), “10 things you should know about me” and “My favorite holiday”.

We're also sending out new invites to a few people who have shown an interest in being part of this blog…You’ll soon know who! (Keep guessing if u wanna!)….and of course they will start of by putting up their intro posts and start of with whatever topic is on at that point of time….

If you any of you know of people who wanna join in, please let me know. And for people who get here and visit this blog…if u have questions, email them to betweenusfriends@gmail.com and we’ll get back to you.

Coming Soon: Oh yes, for all existing members of this blog....John's working on a badge to link up to this blog :) ...plz pick up the code and flaunt it in your blogs! Lets show off guys! :P

That’s it guys…Have a great weekend! And Happy Blogging!!! :)

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